John Victor
M Phil Clinical Psychology
Exp: 22.7 Years
Clinical Psychologist
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It is not uncommon for people to feel these negative effects after a sexual assault. It can take time for someone to process the experience and work through the emotions it brings up. This often means that they may not be able to engage in usual activities or socialize with others easily. Additionally, there can be physical manifestations of post-traumatic stress such as flashbacks or nightmares which can make life quite difficult.
Gender identity is a personal experience that varies from person to person. It is based on an individual's internal sense of self, not their sex assigned at birth. For some people, their gender identity may be different than the sex they were assigned at birth because they feel more comfortable or natural in the opposite gender role. There are no wrong or right answers when it comes to your gender identity; what matters most is how you feel inside and what feels best for you.
Genderfluid people may feel like they are both male and female, or neither male nor female. Gender identity is the gender that a person identifies with, regardless of their assigned sex at birth. There are two traditional genders: men and women. But some people don't feel comfortable fitting into these categories. This is known as "genderfluid" or "nonbinary." Genderfluid people may feel like they are both male and female, or neither male nor female. They can also identify as something else entirely (like transgender), which means their gender identity doesn't neatly fit into any one category.
For some, their cross-dressing behavior might be seen as a fetish or an identity disorder. If you experience a cross-dressing fetish or feel like you are not entirely male or female, then that is okay too. You do not have to fit into any specific gender role and can be whatever makes you happy! There are many different ways to experience gender, and everyone should be allowed to express themselves in whatever way feels right to them.
If you are feeling confused or uncomfortable about your gender identity, it is important to talk with a trusted individual, ideally someone who can understand without judging you and can listen and provide answers. This should help reduce some of your anxieties.
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Hi Ms. R,
It must be tough for you and your brother to go through immense stress. Kindly get in touch; we will assist you in whatever we can.
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I hope this helps.
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What does psychology feel about borderline personality disorder patients?
People with BPD often have volatile patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense stormy attachments, their attitudes toward family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration/ love) to devaluation (intense anger/ dislike).
If psychology was a person, what would it have said about these patients (best good and worst bad )?
When these people are in love, they are intense romantic lovers and make your world look beautiful and fulfilling.
However, the opposite is also true, as when they hate/dislike, they make life extremely volatile.
Do therapists really believe they should be avoided and treatment for them is not possible?
Yep, some insensitive therapists with weaknesses are not at all comfortable in treating them. And they blame their clients for their failures.
However, if you come across a sensible and empathetic therapist who maintains boundaries, I am sure you get help.
What is the level of stigma in the community of professionals?
In reality, there is no stigma related to BPD, but many therapist's who are not appropriately trained or not adequately empathetic generalize many misconceptions regarding BPD.
If they are frequently abandoned by the therapists, then it seems that there is a lack of skills among the therapists as well. How should the patients deal with the blame of being a BPD ? At the end of the day, even a narcissist has the right to be healed.
As a person with BPD, you have to make sure that it would be best to start your therapeutic journey after ample research about your therapist. This journey might take few years of working together with a lot of empathy and maintain safe boundaries.
You'll be lucky if you find the right therapist.
Why is the community so pro depression and anxiety, etcetera and so anti PDs?
It's easy to work with depression and anxiety rather than PD's for most inexperienced therapists.
As I have mentioned earlier, therapists need to be appropriately trained and have adequate experience in treating PD's; otherwise, they concentrate on anxiety/depression.
To treat PD's, a therapist needs to have a lot of depth, understanding, empathy, patience, knowledge, intellect, self-awareness, and self-control.
*what are the best things about borderline opersonality.
They themselves :)
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Dr. John has been my mentor and guide with immense patience. He has not only taught me to deal with my problems but also to live life as it comes and make the most of it. He identifies issues and their causes precisely and focuses on dealing with each problem sensitively. Thank you doctor for not only helping me understand my worth but also for teaching me how to live and be happy always! I owe my happiness and drive to you.
Dec 25, 2017, 5:03 AM
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When I decided to take therapy I was very unsure of my decision. I was too conscious, embarrassed to go for it and doubtful about my therapist. But my insecurities went away in no time when I felt heard, important, respected and understood by my therapist. After a couple of sessions I was awstruck that how could someone possibly understand another human being so well. I went into therapy with the complaint of having a void and emptiness in my life and no motivation and meaning whatsoever. In those 19 sessions I experienced a total transformation in my lifestyle and my thinking. The best part was that Mr. John empowered me in a way that I brought all the changes in my life by myself. My relationship with my family got better, my procastination was gone, I stopped doing things to please people, my anxiety has come down to almost 0 which looks like a magic to me, and for the first time I was not getting into relationships out of vulnerability or neediness. I look back and wonder how far have I come and how I am able to live every moment to the fullest now. Therapy is the best thing that happened to me. I don't think there's a better therapist out there. My therapy room was always the safest place for me, where I could totally be myself, say whatever I want and express my deepest pains and guilts, without the fear of being judged. He sits there patiently in front of you like a mirror and helps you see what is really going on inside of you. Once you see it yourself, he empowers and facilitates you in a way that you're be able to step out of it all by yourself. I cannot express in words how empowering this whole process is. I highly recommend Mr. John to everyone who is looking for help.
Apr 21, 2018, 1:02 AM
KLN
I suffered from anxiety for more than 20 years. I tried to take help from many people, including psychologists, but nothing actually helped. I decided to join psychology to fix myself. I met John Sir for the first time as a student. His teachings gave me hope. He tought me so many things in the class through practical demonstrations. He never advised me. But he made me feel that he was there for me. He left the teaching job and started conducting internships. Then I joined under him just to get personal help from him even though I was not confident about my future and career. I always wanted to take personal therapy, but I had a fear that it might fail. I used to ask my personal doubts and discuss many things. He brought changes in me just by talking in classes. That gave me courage to enter into therapy. Then I entered therapy. He made everything so simple to me and brought me out of my inferiority and guilt just in few weeks. There was complete transformation. I became very confident and healthy. After my therapy, I did same internship again to step ahead in career. He became my supervisor and helped me in ressolving issues that were interfering with my competence. Understanding him and keeping him as a role model actually influenced me more than his therapy. After seeing him in roles of teacher, mentor, therapist and supervisor, I can say, 'John' is not a person. 'John' is a experience that has a power of transforming life. Source of his power is his unique charecter. He has unbiased objective perception. He is very truthful and honest. His behaviour remains same everywhere. He is very empathetic and his eyes reflects the pain of patient. He treats everyone with same respect. All his words and actions are meaningful. He has a burning desire in his heart to help. He reached a stage where nothing can actually impact him. He stays above the situation. It is impossible to explain about him in one review.
May 17, 2018, 11:38 AM
VB
I can really boast on his behalf to those who had lost hope in my treatment and tell them that treating BPD is not as difficult and sad as they think. So far I have done many sessions with this intelligent man who not just treats me with good knowledge and skill but also asks for more and more feedback and takes it positively each time you give it which opens door to unexplored areas of my life and builds even more trust. My therapy with him has been painful, happy, sad, sometimes joyous and most importantly focused on my inprovement which he persistently keeps in my mind irrespective any abc-xyz reason. If you don't like hearing the truth, don't go to him because his focus is on truths, logics and fine amount of empathy. I wish more therapists like him help bpd patients in India. John is one of the few people out of all the 20-25 therapists I have met who does not let me think that BPD will keep bugging me all my life and I suppose just like him no human including professionals have any right to tell patients that struggle will be a part of their life. Therapy should be about hope and hope in future treatments also. I love the fact that my therapy with him is pretty chilled out and sometimes I even get to laugh in some serious moments which makes me feel light sometimes. Also, one thing which is unique in my therapy with you Is i get to cry a lot which was one very difficult I felt I could not do...and the release is just ecstatic. Now I atleast know crying is one good thing humans can use to relieve themselves. My advice to him for my therapy- Keep doing what you are doing. I want you to be my last therapist John. Your effort for my growth is something I am grateful for. This is my first update. I will write my last update when my therapy reaches the point I have been desperately waiting for years.
Mar 27, 2021, 11:42 AM