Written by Nandini Agrawal | Reviewed By John Victor | Updated On November 11, 2022
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Anger is "an emotional state that ranges in intensity from mild irritation to intense outrage and violence." Anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes. For example, when you get furious, your blood pressure, heart rate, and levels of the hormones adrenaline and noradrenaline all increase. The most interesting thing about anger is that it can be triggered anywhere by anything.
Anger, when seen from an evolutionary aspect, is a natural, adaptive response to danger that arouses strong, frequently confrontational sentiments and behaviors that enable us to fight and defend ourselves when we are attacked.
Violence is the reflexive and intuitive manner in which many of us express our anger, but with evolution, laws and societal conventions have imposed boundaries on how far our rage can lead us. For example, you can't physically lash out at every person or thing that frustrates or annoys you, but some of us, or I may say many of us, find it hard to control our anger.
This article not only talks about what factors drive one angry or can elevate it, but you might also generally hear people say, "I have trouble controlling my anger" or "I lose my temper easily". Hence, we will talk about how to cope with it and when to consider anger management therapy as an option.
Anger can be contained, then transformed, or directed. When you choose to suppress your anger you can contain it and channel it into more useful activity. but when it fails to find an outlet outside of yourself, it could move inward and can result in sadness or high blood pressure. Anger that goes unspoken can lead to other issues, eg- pathological outbursts of rage, such as passive-aggressive behavior or a persistently angry and cynical mentality. This is where anger management comes in.
Anger management aims to relieve the physiological stimulation that anger creates as well as your emotional feelings. You cannot change, ignore, or get rid of the things or people who irritate you, but you can learn to control your reactions.
Everyone has their own rituals to deal with their anger.
The three major strategies are
The best way to deal with anger is to express it in a confident, non-aggressive manner. The intent to be kept in mind is to express your demands without hurting others.
You may need anger management assistance in learning more effective ways to deal with this emotion if you notice yourself acting in ways that seem terrifying and out of control.
Firstly, it is not something occurring 'only' with you. many people have difficulty handling their outrage. Some people are more "hot-headed" than others. some are persistently angry and unhappy but don't express it overtly. People that get upset easily don't necessarily curse and hurl things; they can also withdraw socially or become unwell. Low tolerance for frustration (infuriating if anything seems unfair) is an attribute of those who are quickly enraged.
An underlying factor could be -
FUN FACT - According to research, expressing your anger outwardly just serves to fuel more hostility and aggressiveness rather than aiding you or the target of your rage in resolving the conflict.
Now sit back and probe the circumstances where you have been detrimentally furious toward others or own yourself and try to pick the possible reason for your behavior from the following list-
Consider anger management therapy-
Remember, things will still happen that will irritate you, and occasionally that anger will be justified. You can't get rid of rage, despite your best attempts.
Learn to be assertive instead of aggressive.
Frustration, suffering, loss, and the erratic behavior of others are inevitable parts of life. You can modify how these occurrences affect you, but you can't change the fact that they do exist.
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